Ganesh Remy Ramsaran has time, a lot of time to think about everything that went wrong since Dec. 2012. In a few weeks, he will be sentenced for committing the second-degree murder of his late wife, Jennifer Ramsaran.
Ramsaran was interviewed, interrogated, and ultimately cross-examined, and he remained steadfast in his assertion: “I did not kill my wife.”
Twelve Chenango County jurors saw it differently, and those who determined Ramsaran’s guilt or innocence were decisive taking just over three hours to render a guilty verdict.
The prosecution, devoid of a smoking gun, a time of death or even a means by which Jennifer Ramsaran was killed, was thorough in its sketch of Ramsaran. District Attorney Joseph McBride left no detail to chance, and was convincing in his portrayal of a man who continually lied to family, friends, and legal authorities.
Yes, Remy Ramsaran has time to re-think everything he has done and said for the past two years. But what will he say to his three children?
At some point, the children will ask, “why daddy?” “Why did you kill mommy?”
Remy Ramsaran was always quick with an explanation, deft with a lie, and spurious with his tears. Or were those tears genuine? Was he summoning the guilt with which he felt for killing his wife of over 15 years?
How easy will it be for Remy to look into his kids’ eyes, and tell them, “I didn’t kill mommy.”
Until the events of Dec. 11, 2012, the worst that could be said of Remy Ramsaran is that he was a philandering husband with narcissistic qualities.
If cheating husbands that are full of themselves are markers for a possible killer, then we’d have hundreds of thousands of men walking around that are one step away from committing a murder.
Remy Ramsaran did not kill his wife merely to start a new life with his mistress, nor to collect the money on an insurance policy. He snapped, and he did so because his self-assuredness and massive ego were deflated.
At some point on Dec. 11, 2012, one has to believe Jennifer Ramsaran gave her husband a reality check, and Mr. Ramsaran did not like what he heard – at all.
Why do seemingly normal, well-educated people commit acts of atrocity beyond anyone’s understanding? DA McBride and his coterie of legal and police investigators were right to target Ramsaran as the culprit of his wife’s murder. The theories as to why he would stoop to the level of murder were also logical.
McBride needed to formulate a case that proved Remy Ramsaran, beyond a reasonable doubt, was guilty of killing his wife. McBride’s methods involved painstaking research, interviews, hard-nosed police work, and carefully cultivated scientific evidence.
McBride needed all of those things for his prima facie case. But if the law would have allowed it, all McBride needed to prove was that Remy Ramsaran killed his wife because his manhood was called into question.
All the ideals of a traditional male role – the archaic, egotistical ones – are those that Remy Ramsaran held dear. Perhaps Jennifer Ramsaran told her husband she had met some other men, and she came to the conclusion she could do a heck of a lot better than her husband.
If such a scenario transpired, Remy Ramsaran would be indignant and infuriated. This is a man who wants to have his cake, and asks that his suffering wife, who he views almost as a concubine, serve him another piece.
I don’t believe that Remy Ramsaran woke up on Dec. 11, 2012 with the idea that he would kill his wife. But his overwhelming self-adulation overtook common sense.